80? Really?
When I was active in high school and college debate I used a lot of evidence to support my arguments and I often referenced or quoted an expert to back up my position. During the years when I was actively involved in debate (1955-1961), no expert predicted the future beyond 1975. Accordingly, that date became a kind of time-barrier in my mind. I thought that after 1975 we would all metaphorically drop off the edge of the earth, like Columbus sailing to America.
A second time-barrier that I didn’t even think about then, or ever, was my 80th birthday, which actually snuck up on me last week. As a kid and teenager I didn’t know anyone that old. In fact, anyone older than 60 was ancient. Right?
No more. I’m not ancient. I’m just experienced.
Though I experience lower back pain when I walk, an occasional mental recess when I try to remember names or places, and difficulty hearing conversation in a noisy restaurant, I still feel great.
Seriously, though, it’s difficult for me to be serious about my age. After all, my dad lived to be 104, and for the last 50 years he didn’t seem to be much older than I was.
On my 80th birthday Daveen and I shared a memorable dinner with friends, and I started to think about the important lessons I have learned during the past eight decades.
- Everyone has different preferences and values. Daveen and our three daughters are Vegans. They could be right.
- The only person who suffers when I get upset is me. So I am seldom bothered by anything I can’t control.
- I am not in charge of what happens to me, but I am in charge of my reaction. See #2.
- Many people care about me, as I care about them. That’s a large part of what keeps me going.
- Different ages, different stages. I’m throwing out or giving away clothing and treasures that I’ve accumulated over many years.
- I’ve led a complicated life. Now it’s time to simplify and relax a little. I prefer working an eight hour day rather than a twelve hour day.
Happy Birthday to you, whatever day of the year that may be.
Alan
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